Let me add something about friendship. This time, allow me to be more specific. In the past months, I have been really really quiet and the reason was and still is ... the fact that my phone rarely rings. I get regular calls but that would be my hubby calling day in, day out. I get occasional phone calls from people who are endearing enough to foster close friendship with me these past months and I'm truly grateful. However, if comparison is to be a better judge, my social life has clearly diminished a great deal compared to few years ago. Not that I am complaining of course. I am in a very happy place right now.
So back to friendship.
I would like to stress the point that my circle of friendship is rather small in diameter. With that lesser number however, the magnitude of strength in terms of decibels, neuronal power, professionalism, kindness, diplomatic honesty and all-round personality .... is pretty much an equivalent of a self-sufficient town where you buy milk at 4 am and it's available, fresh and cold. You get the drift right?
So frankly, let me scan my phone and allow me to dig into the apps I use frequently and see who occupies my waking moments:
- hubby
- NAM
- HOLA girl
- Freezejas
- TPL
- HoD
- work colleague
- a family member
- the POCOCKs and the gang
- the GUY's gang composed of 2
- the bank
Seriously, I'd never be considered as social butterfly for nothing. But at the rate things are going, I see a mellower person with a lot of time for other things productive. As for friendships, I clearly don't need a thousand strong to make my life anything different. I'd be polite and say HI to people when chances permit but as for those I follow in moments I choose to do then... it's a different story.
Fact is, I care about my old old friends and those who in a way helped me be the person I am now like my classmates, my acquaintances and ex-lovers (not that there's many of them). But as we grow old, something clicks inside of us and we have the luxury to choose what we want and what we like. Besides, growing old is not for those who dilly-dally. By now, I know what I like and I am perfectly comfortable with that power to choose.
I am old enough to say that connection isn't something I need to force. Some things just fit perfectly. Just like friendship